Motherhood comes in many different forms, and not all mothers fit into society’s traditional mould. In recent years, there has been a growing movement to celebrate and embrace non-traditional forms of motherhood, such as single mothers, stepparents, and foster mothers. On this Mother’s Day, it’s time to recognise and honour the many ways that mothers can come in all shapes, sizes, and forms.

Single mothers face unique challenges as they navigate parenthood on their own, but they also have the opportunity to create a strong and resilient bond with their children. For many single mothers, juggling work, parenting, and other responsibilities can be overwhelming, but they rise to the occasion and do what it takes to provide for their families.

As Jasdeep Kaur, mother of one boy says, “being a single mother is twice the work, twice the stress and twice the tears, but also twice the hugs, twice the love and twice the pride.”

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“Single mothers have a unique and challenging responsibility. They are the sole provider, caregivers, and comforters to their children. It’s a job that requires strength, resilience, and unwavering love.” – Jasdeep

Nabilah, mum of a beautiful little girl, says that she curated her mindset to believe that nobody is clipping her wings, and that she’s able to independently make decisions by herself –  she’s never felt happier.

“At first, I felt it was a scary label to have, ‘single mum’, it carries heavily negative connotations within our society, and I dreaded to face the unknown world, with my daughter who was still shy of her 2nd birthday. Fast forward 4 years later, I’ve never felt happier, enjoying my freedom with my 6yo by my side and trying as best as I could to provide all the love and care for her. Undoubtedly there were many tears and sweat throughout the years, which I feel have shaped me into a stronger version of myself today,” says 34 year old Nabilah.

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“Don’t hesitate to reach out for help, be it family, friends or like-minded people as you are not alone in this hardship. As much as we put our kid(s) above us, please do not neglect your mental health, fellow mums (single or not).”- Nabilah

As for Feizy, who is a single mum of twin boys, she mentions that raising children on your own requires a lot of courage, hard work, and perseverance.

“It is essential to have a strong support system, including family and friends to assist with childcare and other responsibilities. Seeking out resources, such as counselling, financial aid or parenting classes, can provide extra useful guidance and support too.

She also added that it’s important to make a schedule and plan for each day, organise the household, keep track of appointments, prioritise tasks and balance it with career. 

“Focus on the positive aspects of being a single parent and celebrate your successes and accomplishments. Remember, being a single parent doesn’t mean you are alone, and with the right support and strategies, you can overcome the challenges.” – Feizy

Adoptive mothers on the other hand, may not have given birth to their children, but they have chosen to become a parent through the selfless act of adoption. They may have waited years for the opportunity to become a mother, and they have a deep appreciation for the role that they play in their child’s life.

Take Aisyah Wahab for example who adopted 2 beautiful girls while they were still young babies.

“Adoptive mums are strong women who have so much love to share. When I adopted my first daughter, I would say it was hard. People around me tried to keep her status a secret and I felt constant guilt for hiding something so important to a child. But, my love for her was strong and I knew I was her mother, and as a mother, telling her this important information is how I show my love and protect her. She is loved by everyone around her. It’s hard to put into words how much she means to our family. Everyone ends up forgetting how she made her way into our lives to be honest,” says Aisyah.

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“We are lucky to have little ones count on us on a daily. Enjoy it. Don’t let negative people around you spoil it for you. Things can be hard sometimes, but worth every little butterfly kisses and morning hugs.” – Aisyah Wahab

These non-traditional forms of motherhood are just a few examples of the many ways that motherhood can be redefined. On Mother’s Day, it’s important to recognise and celebrate all mothers, regardless of their background, orientation, or family structure. We should honour the unique challenges and joys that come with each form of motherhood, and celebrate the strength and resilience of these mothers who are breaking the mould and forging their own path.

So this Mother’s Day, let’s take a moment to appreciate all mothers, and especially those who are embracing non-traditional forms of motherhood. Let’s celebrate their love, dedication, and hard work in raising their children, and let’s work together to create a world where all forms of motherhood are recognised and celebrated.